After devoting over 33 years to child abuse investigations, we have found that
they are very different than others that we conduct, simply because of the
emotion that is involved when any child is being subjected to abuse of any
type. For that reason alone, it is not unusual for clients to want the
investigation conducted immediately and the evidence obtained instantly so
they can "get to court."
In some cases, clients with very little or no patience will "shortcut" the
investigation, then lose their case and the child is forced to remain in
the abusive environment.
We will not "shortcut" any investigation where the welfare of a child is
the issue. When real abuse is present, there is absolutely no excuse whatsoever
for not obtaining adequate and proper evidence to prove that abuse to the
courts. Any parent who honestly loves their child will do what is in the
best interest of the child. That does not suggest "shortcutting" any
investigation.
I have been amazed at some of the contacts we have had over the years regarding
these cases, especially from some men. Their first and really their only
concern is, "How much do you get for a child custody case?" While I do understand
that finance is an important issue, most of these men were "price shopping"
on the telephone on an issue as important as the safety and welfare of their
child. To be quite honest, most of those contacts were from men who were
angry at their wives or ex-wives and simply wanted to initiate a custody
investigation simply as a means of "control" or "getting even."
Child abuse is a very serious issue and not one that we take lightly. Please
do not waste our time because you are "angry" with someone and want to "get
even." A child's life is worth far more than that. If, however, there is
a real problem, handle it properly and obtain the evidence necessary to have
the child removed from any form of abuse.
It is not my intention to sound rude or insulting, but we as adults have
a choice in what we do and where we live. A child, living in an abusive situation
does not.